Category: Anniversary Series

  • Saying Goodbye

    Saying Goodbye

    On this day, we say goodbye and step into our life on the road.

    Published on July 18, 2016 – Narrated by Carmen (updated April 2025)
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    Carmen recording today’s podcast
    Carmen recording today’s podcast in her studio set up in the Airstream’s bedroom

    Today, we leave San Diego from Fiddler’s Cove on the Silver Strand – where we’ve camped for the last two weeks.

    We begin a new chapter.

    fiddlers cove cornado
    Beauty at Fiddler’s Cove RV Park and Marina. On the bay. Fifteen minutes from downtown. Superb wifi.

    Yes, it’s scary but people leave the place they call “home” everyday, right?

    We’re grateful this departure is our decision.

    We are venturing out like toddler cubs exiting the cave – doltish, wide-eyed and giddy. Everything is truly a wonder when you don’t have to be at work on Monday.

    Recovering possession of our time is going well.

    I feel my powers of observation expanding, my brain breathing.

    Yesterday, I tracked a colored prism of light in the Airstream to find it’s source. Like having new eyes.

    This isn’t so much a retirement as it is a pilgrimage. We’re moving toward the heart’s desire, in a geezer kind of way: Doing what we damn well want. Revisiting old friends, old books, old jokes.

    In the wise, sweet verse of Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales, I came across the line, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained” is hilariously funny in the farcical antics of The Reeve’s Tale – a mother-lode of great comedic writing.

    And, we hope our on-going journey to soothing and iconic places will produce good stories with super-sized portions of bawdy, provincial humor (our favorite).

    carmen and jim pascarella
    Carmen and Jim Pascarella “The Funniest Man In San Diego” celebrating his birthday

    So, yes, things have calmed down a bit from the hectic, discombobulating chaos of our early days, three months ago, when we first moved into the trailer.

    We had been so thoroughly overwhelmed with the exhausting details of preparation, moving, retiring, learning to maintenance our rig, entertaining, and tying up loose ends that inspiration for our shiny Airstream adventure had begun to dull … until I met our first campground neighbor who I will call Sam.

    In November, Sam will be a hundred … that’s 100 years-old … with nearly 70 years spent in mostly full-time RV travel.

    Sam handles his 40′, 8-ton fifth-wheel like a pro – and he should considering he’s traveled every continent in the world in either a motorhome (which he designed and built himself in the 50’s) or a trailer, or other forms of transport including skis and elephants.

    Everest? Yep. He hiked to base camp in the 60’s, before Goretex.

    You see, Sam’s a legend. One might feel intimidated or awed to camp beside an RV Legend – especially on your first day of full-timing – but I consider it to be auspicious.

    And, even as we delighted Sam with an entire weekend of hilarity as he watched (from his immaculately maintained RV) our performance of every humiliating remedy suggested on Air Forums to dislodge a monstrous shitalactite from the depths of our black water tank, we just felt so honored.

    Two years ago, after his wife of 70 years had passed, Sam dispensed with all photos and journals of their epic travels to distant and exotic lands.

    But in the warm afternoons, as I waited outside for Jim to come home from work, Sam would often invite me to “pull up a chair” and he would share recollections from his journeys – like the 4,000 mile trek down the White Nile from Tanzania to Khartoum by any and all means available.

    No visuals were necessary. I could see him young with his wife, in that moment, on a dirt road bargaining a ride from a farmer with an empty dung wagon, slinging their rucksacks into the open bed as it lurches forward…  Stories of his travels came forth easy as pie. His blue-flame eyes burned through memories like dry mesquite, drawing me in.

    In her later years, Beatrix Potter said,  “Thank God I have the seeing eye, that is to say, as I lie in bed I can walk step by step on the fells and rough land seeing every stone and flower and patch of bog and cotton pass where my old legs will never take me again.”

    When I caught a nasty cold, Sam and I parted ways. Then, shortly after, Jim and I moved to a different camp ground.

    Hundred year-old people don’t do Facebook, and it’s difficult to send mail to folks with no permanent address from folks with no permanent address, so we will probably never meet again.

    I’m okay with that. I’m a navy brat and I know how to move on.

    Still, The Legend of Sam will endure.

    The abundance of his traveling life confirms something I have always felt – that wandering is a basic human need.

    In his book, Blue Highways, William Least Heat-Moon says, “Instead of insight, maybe all a man gets is strength to wander for a while. Maybe the only gift is a chance to inquire, to know nothing for certain. An inheritance of wonder and nothing more.”

    Jim and I don’t have 70 years like Sam and his beloved, yet, this is our chance.

    So, with that, we say…

    Goodbye …to the people and things we will miss

    coronado concerts in the park
    Cooking special recipes at the Summer Coronado Concerts in the Park
    coronado marina
    Walking Pico de Gallo on his favorite wall at the Coronado marina
    Working out at the Coronado Community pool
    Working out at the Coronado Community pool
    coronado
    Enjoying the flowers of Coronado
    view from our 3rd floor patio
    Taking in the amazing view of San Diego and Coronado from our 3rd floor deck
    coronado golf course
    Hanging out at the Coronado public golf course
    village pizza coronado
    Eating the best pizza in all Coronado, Village Pizzeria at The Landing
    kayaking san diego bay
    Kayaking under the Coronado bridge.
    mojo nixon
    Having Mojo Nixon as our tenant in the front house for 13 years
    Our property in Coronado for the past 20 years.
    Our property in Coronado for the past 20 years.
    Coronado 4th of July parade
    Coronado 4th of July parade – a piece of Americana
    Coronado christmas parade
    Coronado Christmas parade
    living in beauty sound studio
    Carmen’s custom built voice studio (which had to be disassembled when the house sold)
    hotel del coronado sand castles
    Walking by the Hotel Del Coronado and watching sand castles being shaped.
    Boney’s Bayside Market
    Shopping at Boney’s Bayside Market
    Ferry over to downtown San Diego from the Coronado Ferry Landing.
    Taking the Ferry over to downtown San Diego from the Coronado Ferry Landing.
    Coronado Summer concerts in the park
    Coronado Summer concerts in the park with friends

    Our friends

    Barbie and George
    Dinner with “Les 6” our friends, Jim, Sam, Chris and Dawn
    Bob and Lori
    Tom
    Dinner with our son, Chris, and his friend Cyndy

    The San Diego County Medical Society said goodbye to Jim by interviewing him for the San Diego Physician Magazine – July 2016 Edition

    And, though, certainly things will change, we finally believe Beauty is ready for the journey.

    Below is a short video of her interior as of today July 18, 2016.

    UPDATE: Here is a video of what Beauty looked like in 2020

    UPDATE: Here is a video of what Beauty looked like in 2024

    “Now, let us ride” – Chaucer

    Our Annual Travel Milestones

    Each year on this day, we pause to mark another year of this life on the road.

    Saying Goodbye
    The Beginning — July 18, 2016

    Facts of LIB
    Year Two Begins — July 18, 2017

    Canadian LIB Moment
    Year Three Begins — July 18, 2018

    Counting Moments: 3 Years
    Year Four Begins — July 18, 2019

    Four Years and Counting
    Year Five Begins — July 18, 2020

    Captain’s Log
    Year Six Begins — July 18, 2021

    RVer’s Bag o’ Tricks
    Year Seven Begins — July 18, 2022

    Launching Year 8
    Year Eight Begins — July 18, 2023

    The Magic of Number 9
    Year Nine Begins — July 18, 2024

    20 Whoppers About Full-Time RV Travel
    Year Ten Begins — July 18, 2025

    You can see our exact route on this map.

    *photos in this post (unless otherwise noted) were taken and copyrighted by Living In Beauty.


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